Tag: baby dolls

Dementia Care & Babies

I’ve written about baby dolls before, but I often get reminded of the amazing impact they have in our residents’ lives. They really do make our residents happy. The other day I was walking down the hall and spotted three of my residents, sitting nearby each other, cuddling their baby dolls. They were all of different levels of functioning. One woman, Gwen, can almost pass for a person without dementia. She is talkative, outgoing, and can walk without aid. Another one, Bella, did not speak much at all, and still another resident spoke, but completely in Italian. She used to speak English, but eventually lost her second language as her dementia progressed. Despite their different levels of functioning, all these women were interacting with each other because of the dolls.  They took turns holding each other’s babies, or remarking on the looks of each baby. My resident, Bella, held out her hands and caressed her neighbor’s baby’s face. “Beautiful,” she offered. The babies are such a big hit that we actually had to assist one of my residents in putting her breast away–she was trying to breast-feed the baby doll. “Isn’t she adorable!” Gwen cried to me. “She’s the easiest baby! She doesn’t cry or nothing!” A good site for baby doll purchases

Don’t Cry in Front of the Baby

Sandra was known for sundowning. Most days, Sandra would start crying around 3 PM.  “Sundowning” is a common phenomenon for people with dementia. Essentially, it means that people will become more agitated, upset, and irritable later in the day—usually because they are tired. “He’s no good!” she cried out. “He’s a no-good, son-of-a-bitch!” she sobbed.  “Sandra, what’s wrong?” I asked, sitting at her side.  “It’s my ex,” she said. “He’s a terrible person!” There was no doubt that Sandra had been divorced for many years, and that her ex-husband was probably deceased. That did not matter, though, because, in Sandra’s mind, the painful relationship was still happening. The only thing that helped calm Sandra down was her baby. Ever since we got baby dolls at our community, Sandra was easier to comfort. Her sundowning had decreased dramatically and her general daily mood had improved. “Sandra, don’t cry in front of the baby,” I said, softly, motioning to the baby doll perched on her walker’s seat. Sandra always carried at least one of the baby dolls around on her walker. She usually talked to them, laughed with them, and held them gingerly while sitting on the couch.  “You’re right,” she said. “I can’t get upset with the baby here,” she nodded, taking a deep breath as she calmed down.

Q&A: When a fake pet is real

I got a great question from Alana, a volunteer coordinator at a hospice. She and her team got a Memorable Pet after seeing them on my blog! She wants to know how best to put their Pet to use, and also wants to know who the Pets would be most appropriate for. My residents love our Memorable Pets! At my community we had an open room that hadn’t been used for anything in particular. I had a vision and convinced my team that it would work. I set up a “Pet Shop” by purchasing wall decor, pet food bowls, leashes, and a cat scratching post. I also bought 2 dogs and 1 cat. It gave the room a real identity, which is what I enjoy doing for my residents.   In terms of who the Pets would be best appropriate for, it really depends on the stage that a person with dementia is in. You can assume with a good deal of certainty that anyone in an advanced stage of dementia will believe that the Pet is real. Typically, people who believe that baby dolls are real will think that the Pets are, too. People in moderate stages of dementia may or may not think that the Pet is real. I always approach with caution when I am not sure if a resident will believe that the Pet is real. “Look at this,” I suggest, pointing to a Pet or handing it to a resident. Based on the reaction, it is easy to tell if a person believes that it is real or not. I also always make sure that I know if a person likes animals before handing them a Pet.  And, always, I treat the baby dolls and the Memorable Pets as real until I know that a resident doesn’t think that they are. 

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